Leila Adams, a mother of a disabled boy, has publicly thanked a pub owner after she and her family were made to feel welcome and comfortable in a local pub.  Leila’s son, Matthew, has severe brain damage, is mute and uses a wheelchair.

“If you’re sat at home with a disabled child, partner or friend and feel on edge about taking them anywhere due to fear of someone making comments please feel free to bring them here. If I find anyone making negative comments or being disrespectful they will be asked to leave not you.”

Lack of Understanding

Matthew’s mum and dad explain their sons disability, which was caused by an infection as a baby.  The infection left him with brain damage and a sensory processing disorder, which means he expresses his emotions through loud noises, throwing his arms about or banging his head against his wheelchair. The family have received many negative comments when out together, due to Matthew’s behaviour.

Day Out

On this occasion, Leila’s husband had approached pub owner, Steph Tate, and asked if his family could come in.  Miss Tate was shocked that they felt the need to ask permission, just because their son was disabled and was heartbroken hearing of others’ negative comments.

Leila and her family were overwhelmed by Miss Tate’s reaction and were able to enjoy quality family time, without feeling stressed.

Miss Tate’s Reaction

Miss Tate was so taken aback by what had happened, that she felt the need to share a public post on the pub’s Facebook page. She said:

Matthew and his dad in the pub

“My intention is not to embarrass the parent who I spoke to yesterday, it has played on my mind all night about how this man must have felt asking me if his child would be accepted in here. It then got me thinking about how many other people must be in the same position.  Whether you need us to get you extension leads to plug specialist equipment in, help moving tables/chairs for wheelchairs or any other help you may need, everyone is welcome in my pub and help will always be offered by all of my staff.”

She made a point of reaching out to disabled people and their carers/families, saying:

“If you’re sat at home with a disabled child, partner or friend and feel on edge about taking them anywhere due to fear of someone making comments please feel free to bring them here. If I find anyone making negative comments or being disrespectful they will be asked to leave not you.”

Public Response

The post received more than 1,800 likes and was shared by more than 800 people.  The overwhelmingly positive response has moved the family, who once felt cut out of society.

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